Sunken Mood

Not in my usual mood today…just one bad day I guess…Heard some news yesterday and today and I just can’t help but wonder what will happen after the marriage. All my previous worries just keep on playing on my thoughts…All my plans and what I wanted to do with my life play tricks on me…I shouldn’t think of these now…I know I should let the future worry about itself. It’s just the usual pessimistic me. But can’t help but let it out. A lot of couples are disregarding this incompatibility for each other especially those who already spend money to reserve their suppose-to-be suppliers for the wedding. Others may think that your hard earned money will be put into waste if you just forget about the whole idea of marriage and shoo away those itsy bitsy teeny winy doubts. Even if the “Miserable life” sign is already breathing down your neck and you found out that you two were better of to be in a relationship but taking it to the next level is something that the high heavens above forbid, so you still push through with it without considering the aftermath of the whole event. It will help you both if you take sometime off, reflect and ponder about the pros and cons of a lifetime commitment. As what the saying goes, it’s not something that you can just throw away, besides it’s more expensive to have it annulled. Think a hundred times before finally deciding. It will save you both from misery than spending the rest of your lives regretting. But be careful though, you might also be blinded with anger and frustrations.

Maybe this feeling that you go through is just normal. Early wedding jitters according to my sisies at weddings@work. Money matters and different opinions clashed and so you may mistakenly think that this is one of signs that you and your husband-to-be are not well-matched. It wouldn’t hurt to be cautious on those warning signals. Though do not confuse this with the feeling caused by the pressures of the wedding preparations and the thought of spending the rest of you life with someone. Make sure that the whole preparation are shared by both parties, it is the start of working together as a couple and in the process get to know more about your partner. Isn’t wonderful that before the Big Day, you actually spent sometimes planning the start of your life together? Enjoy every minute of counting the days you will surely miss it.

Outdoor Theme

One of the hardest details to finalize is our wedding color scheme and theme which up until now is not made up yet. As I’ve mentioned on my previous blog, I’ve got tons of ideas working on my minds which has its advantages and disadvantages. Now, this will be more complicated because I myself don’t have an idea on how I will explain what I really want. The idea was to show bits and pieces of who we really are and what are the things we have in common…Both of us love sports, we love to travel…we love the mountains, the beaches, the adventures, new places, new faces. I thought of a beach theme…but it’s too informal for a wedding and reality check…there’s no beach on sight…what about Hollywood? Too costly…and not our thing…We’re into a more comfortable get-up and laid back nature. So what now?

After long hours of surfing the net, I was able to check http://www.sophiez.com/ showing some wedding themes like autumn, fall, orientalasian, etc.

What I liked most was the outdoor theme.

Celebrate your love of the beautiful and refreshing outdoors. Gardens, parks, the mountains, or the lake can be great backdrops for an outdoor themed wedding. Perfect! We just have to be careful not to overdo it, since it is still a formal affair after all. I saw one of Kaye’s (K.Cunanan catering) weddings with beach themed and I was sure that I want the same setting. Oh, by the way, she’ll be doing our wedding so I asked her advice on this. She said the beach theme can be done with formal clothes if we will minimize it a bit or add a few accents that would compliment our color motif. Now this is another story, I’m also having a hard time finding the right color scheme to go with it…I’ll do another blog for this when all is done…I just need a color palette to finalize it.

Church hunting

It’s my first time to write my thoughts in a blog where many people can actually read my mind. I wasn’t even considering this stuff till now. This is just one of the things that popped out of my mind to do. This too, I’m writing might be with different topics, but I’ll try to have a focal point so I will not lose it again. I’ve been very busy lately, my mind works all the time…and I’ll go nuts if I won’t put my head into focus. I believe it’s not only me who’s experiencing this kind of euphoria. Ever since we started the preparation for our upcoming wedding…my thoughts were on a whirlwind…one idea after another. My Far-ouT is confused already with all the things I’ve been telling and asking him…What do you really want? Are you sure? This is final, if you won’t change your mind again, he says. But he’s been really supportive of all my ideas even if sometimes…I bother him all the time…hehehe! Even at work. And I really appreciate all his inputs. He knows that this is really important to me. I believe he also feels the same with all the efforts.

We are already in the middle part of our planning. At last! We already found our church, which took months before we finally reserve one. This one was full of frustrations and disappointments…Our wedding falls on a Sunday, which of course, was the main problem…since most of the churches, were not holding Sunday weddings. My friends suggested Nuestra Señora de Gracia. I was happy with this one already and so I thought. My mind was already settled when I just thought of asking my mom to check the church and see for herself. Then she was informed that it will be the feast day of their patron and so no wedding will be allowed. My throat literally runs dry of saliva…as if I just swallowed handful of Dubai sand after learning this. And I was really irritated…But I kept my cool and start all over again…

This time, I search the net for all the possibility of finding the right church…I asked my sisies from weddings@work and I gather all the details that I could get. And then I ask a favor again from one of my friends…of course they were more than willing to help me out…this time I told them to call first before going to save time, money, effort and energy…And they found two, one was not that recommended so we opted for Don Bosco church…which is fine with me already…well, that “fine” took four weeks before I learned that our date was already reserved for someone else.Gosh! They were already telling me to change our wedding date to Saturday! I insisted…because it will not be significant anymore. And well, Ian’s mom already consulted a fung shui that our wedding date was OK! So, this time our moms were the ones hunting for the church…

There were other churches that we considered, which I decided not to mentioned anymore…since it will take more space…To make the story short, Camille of F@b who is now our coordinator, was the one who suggested Sanctuario de San Jose in greenhills…I saw some of the photos of the church and I immediately texted my mom to visit and reserve the church. With no hassle at all, I felt it will be the perfect place for our ceremony.